Why are black women deciding not to be in relationships?

Jay.R. Fogle is the CEO of Lokul Tech & Marketing, a company that specializes in helping businesses grow through innovative technology and marketing strategies. Dawn Thompson, is a successful 6 figure entrepreneur who has made a name for herself in the beauty industry. Both individuals are well respected and known for their expertise in the business world. However, when it comes to relationships, they have vastly different views. Jay.R. is a strong advocate for being in a relationship as long as you’ve done the work to heal from the past while Dawn prefers to focus on her career and personal growth. In this article, we will explore their perspectives on why black female entrepreneurs are choosing to be single.

Jay.R: “I don’t get it, Dawn. You’re successful, intelligent, beautiful, and independent. Why wouldn’t you want to be in a relationship?”

Dawn: “Jay, being single is a choice that many black female entrepreneurs are making these days. It’s not that we don’t want to be in a relationship, but we have to consider the toll it takes on us and our businesses.”

Jay.R: “What toll? Love is a beautiful thing. It’s worth taking a risk for, even if it means sacrificing a bit of your business success.”

Dawn: “See, that’s where you’re wrong. Relationships require time, energy, and emotional investment. As entrepreneurs, we already have a lot on our plate. We’re constantly hustling to build our businesses and meet our goals. Adding a relationship on top of that can be too much.”

Jay.R: “But don’t you think it’s important to have someone to lean on and share your success with?”

Dawn: “Of course, but it’s not worth sacrificing our goals and dreams for. Besides, we’re tired of carrying the weight of relationships on our shoulders. Black men need to step up and be better leaders. We need partners who are supportive, reliable, and committed. We can’t afford to waste time on men who aren’t ready to step up.”

Jay.R: “But we need each other. Black men and women need to come together and support each other’s dreams.”

Dawn: “I agree, but that doesn’t mean we have to sacrifice our own dreams in the process. As black women, we’ve been conditioned to put everyone else’s needs before our own. We’re tired of being martyrs. We’re choosing to put ourselves and our businesses first.”

Jay.R: “But isn’t that selfish?”

Dawn: “No, it’s self-care. It’s about prioritizing our mental, emotional, and financial health. It’s about taking control of our lives and refusing to settle for anything less than what we deserve.”

Jay.R: Dawn, I hear what you’re saying, but I still believe that a strong relationship is important for building a successful business. And I don’t think it’s fair to put all the responsibility on black men to be better leaders. We need each other to create a better future.

Dawn: I understand where you’re coming from, Jay.R. But as a black woman, I’ve had to work twice as hard to get where I am today. And unfortunately, I’ve found that many black men aren’t willing to support my dreams and goals. It’s not about putting all the responsibility on them, but rather recognizing that we need to build relationships with people who share our values and ambitions.

Jay.R: I can see your point, Dawn. But what about the idea of building each other up and supporting each other in our goals? I think that’s the key to success, both in business and in relationships.

Dawn: Absolutely, Jay.R. But the reality is that many black women feel like they have to choose between their business and their personal life. It’s not about not wanting a relationship, it’s about prioritizing our goals and being strategic about who we let into our lives. We can’t afford to waste time on relationships that aren’t supportive or fulfilling.

Jay.R: I see what you mean, Dawn. And I think it’s important for us as black men to be more conscious of how we can support black women in their entrepreneurial journeys. We need to be allies, not just in words but in action, by investing in their businesses and mentoring them.

Dawn: Yes, exactly. And for black women who do choose to be single, it’s not a sign of weakness or failure. It’s about recognizing that we are capable of achieving great things on our own, and that we don’t have to settle for anything less than what we deserve. As the saying goes, “I’m not single because I don’t deserve love, I’m single because I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve.”

Jay.R: I hear you loud and clear, Dawn. And I respect your perspective. At the end of the day, it’s about each individual finding their own path and making the best choices for themselves. And whether we’re single or in a relationship, we need to support each other as a community and work towards building a brighter future for us all.

The choice of being single is a personal decision that black female entrepreneurs are making to prioritize their businesses and well-being. It’s not about rejecting love or partnerships, but rather being intentional about the relationships we choose to engage in. Black men need to step up and be better partners if they want to be with successful black women. The burden of relationships cannot fall solely on black women’s shoulders. It’s time for us to put ourselves first and demand the love and support we deserve.

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